Where grey clouds meet

We are all living parallel lives, weaving in and out of each other's existence. 

A person who can't contain their pain can't be trusted. With your life, with your love, with your secrets, with your body, with your heart. 

You can either 'keep at it' externally or you can practice patience, mindfulness, doing the 'inner work', being aware. The feminine way, I presume. Which is 'keeping at it' internally.  It's not about one or the other. It's not about one being right and the other wrong. It's about what suits your inherent nature. The path of least resistance. What comes naturally to you. 

It's the way it is. The masculine leads, the feminine follows. And the feminine inspires the masculine to lead. Even within oneself. Intertwined. Not one better than the other. Both in balance. 

After a while you just learn to live with the pain. It never goes away. It will be there, sometimes in the background, or as a dull ache; while you go on living, laugh with friends, have fun and adventures and have all sorts of experiences. It gives the contrast for you to live a fulfilling life. The key is to never let it overwhelm you, but just let it be there, reminding you of loss and impermanence of everything.